"I am mine, before I am ever anyone else's"- unknown
The Rush to Settle Down is in High Demand
There is a serious chase happening amongst women. We are trampling over one another, and tiring ourselves out reaching for a gold star that doesn't exist.
What is happening to us?
We aren't escaping bogus relationships. We are accepting abuse, deceit and mediocrity, if a ring might be involved. We are falling in love blindly, cohabitating without commitment and placing ones self-worth in the background.
Why do you think that forcing a man to be your happily ever after, will add value to your life?
But most importantly, why do you value the chase, more than you value yourself?
Here are 3 reasons:
Beautiful woman, you are insecure, because you lack self-confidence. You lack self-confidence because you do not love yourself. You do not love yourself, because you were never taught how.
Beautiful woman, you fear living life alone because you have never lived for yourself. Because you have never lived for yourself, you do not know who you are. Because you do not know who you are, you will become anyone. And that my dear, is dangerous.
Beautiful woman, you want a fantasy and not the reality. Because you seek fantasy, the reality of your rushed union will fail. Your failed union, will destroy your mindset. A destroyed mindset will negatively impact your life.
Chase your aspirations. Chase your degrees and business opportunities. Travel the world. Make new friends. Acquaint yourself with Jesus. Girl live!
Life doesn't start after the aisle. In fact, marriage will reveal some of the hardest parts of life.
Before you commit to someone else, commit to yourself.
Marriage is Not a Competition
Most honorable men understand that marriage is a commitment not a competition. Which is why they take their time and think strategically about who and when they choose to marry.
It would be wise to follow suit. Don't let your rush to the altar, keep you from finding an authentic love.
The Value of Marriage
Marriage is a living example of God's love. It is meant to unite two persons, whom God has placed together.
Marriage was not meant for you to experience with just any man. In actuality, you don't choose your husband. God does the picking. The man you are purposed to be with, will be sent to you, when the time is right.
When is it my time?
Stop counting down the days. It's a waste of time. Instead, start choosing yourself every single day.
Learn to stand in confidence and in full awareness of yourself. And if you believe all is right within your soul, stop worrying and practice faith. Once you stop trying to steer your love life, you have given God the authority to perform magic. There are so many levels to life that God can unlock, but he will only do so, once he has your complete heart.
Work on the woman within.
You only get one life to live, don't waste it chasing a man.